I have been notorious for saying, "If a man wants a woman and there is a 1,000 foot wall between him and that woman, well he is either going to climb that wall or bust right through it." This statement is true for a lot of situations. However, there are times when it is 100% false. There are men out there that have been coined the type B personality (Beta Male) that no matter what happens will never approach a woman. These Beta Males are sometimes the best fathers, best listeners, most fun, and greatest husbands.
However, if these guys are NEVER going to approach you, how do you get to them? Click here for answers.
Well, in online dating, the same problem exists. If you are not the sexiest man alive or the equivalent to Shakespeare writing messages than you may go unnoticed. Thus, there must be a dating app for people with different talents.
Enter Hart, the new dating app for artists. "Hart is a unique way to express yourself so that others can be attracted to your creative side. Upload anything interesting about you into your blank canvas, plus five words to complete the presentation. View what others have created and swipe right to start a conversation by sending a critique-response. No face photos because this is the opportunity to show that you are more than just another pretty face."
I absolutely love this idea and app, especially for women. It has been scientifically proven that if a woman rates the attractiveness of a stranger on a 0-10 scale as X and then falls in love with his personality, his attractiveness can move as much as a full 4 basis points. Thus, a 5 turns into a 9. Meaning telling relationship oriented women to choose men based on looks is about as effective as telling Kim Kardashian to stop posting Instagram photos and expecting a result.
Now, in order to come full circle, Hart Dating App has created an easy way for women to finally get access to the type B guy. This is very exciting because until now there was literally no way to get to them and certainly no great way to get to artists. So download the app, and take your first step to landing the men that most likely have never messaged you on any of your other dating apps.
I am the perfect dating coach to answer this question. I hate to admit this, but I probably go on Facebook 10 times a day for scrolling purposes and I am a man who used to pursue women on Facebook. (I actually got a first date via messaging my current girlfriend on Facebook)
Here is exactly what happens when a woman posts a half naked picture like the one below on Facebook:
1. Man internally says either, "Gross, not attracted to you" or "I want to have sex with you"
If man says the latter, he either keeps scrolling or sends the girl a message.
The "message guy's" only intention right now is what is the fastest and easiest way to get this woman into bed. Even if it comes in the form of "Long time no talk, how are you? What is new" or any variation of this message.
Since we are no longer caveman and can't do the following:
men now resort to a civilized socially acceptable offering of sex.
Now, chances are, you are going to get a few dates from a bathing suit picture. You are going to think, wow, posting these pictures really works. However, what happens on these dates? Does the guy try to take you home in the first night? Although I do believe that men do look for sex and find love while women are the opposite, there is a better way to get a more high quality date through Facebook.
Try a picture like this:
This woman look beautiful and is extremely appealing to most men. Most importantly she is not showing off cleavage, her but, or anything scandalous. She is simply pretty and classy. Her outfit maybe even suggests that she is the girl next door. The girl next door is usually a woman that needs to be courted. She needs to feel special, respected, and cherished. When all these things happen, and she feels comfortable, then and only then can a relationship become sexual.
Bottom line, if you want a husband
Do - Post pictures where you look beautiful, classy, sexy and sophisticated
Don't - Post pictures where you show off skin
I have spent years studying online dating and perfecting the process of selecting photos and writing profiles that reflect exactly who you are so the right people send and respond to your messages. This aspect of my business has been wildly successful and makes up the majority of my client's relationships. However, it has always troubled me when single people/clients relied solely on online dating to find someone to date.
They are missing out on various other ways to meet people. Specifically, meeting people in person. Historically, women when they were interested in someone, would stare, maybe smile and hope the guy would come over and chat. To date, this is considered the best "mouse trap" for getting men.
However, based on my studies I have seen this work about 5 - 8% of the time. Thus 95 to 92% of the time the guy never approaches. I am sorry, but staring is NOT the best mouse trap if the best it can do is get an 8% success rate. Do you agree?
So a few years ago, I racked my brain for something simple that would warrant action from men. Boom! Here it is!
WAVE AT THE GUY!
Now before you think I am crazy, let me explain. If you wave, it forces him to do something. He can either cower in the corner, smile, or wave back. If you want, you can then wave for him to come over.
Why is this fantastic?
1. Shows you are confident (Confidence is rated the #1 Sexiest Characteristic of the Opposite Sex)
2. Men are afraid of rejection - This removes this fear and communicates you 100% would like to be approached
What are the results of the wave?
85% of wavers get a reaction. I am not saying 85% is favorable. But, 85% of the time the waver knew where she stood with the guy based on his reaction.
You can do this at a bar, at the grocery store, on public transit, literally everywhere. If you are shy and scared, try and get over it. This will work. Try New Things. I have tried this thousands of times, via myself, clients, and friends, it is leaps and bounds more successful than the stare.
Have some fun, wave at a stranger, be playful, and have a conversation and see if you have some similar interests. (At a minimum you at least know you are attracted to the person)
Okay, no more reading, Go Get'em Tiger!
