Your love life is a catch 22. You want to date a man who is silky smooth in conversation, knows exactly when and how to touch you, and just oozes confidence. But you also want a man that isn't just looking for sex and is willing to commit to you and just you. Does this man actually exist?
The answer is yes, but he is hard to find. If you do find him, what are some signs that he is actually looking for love?
1. When you ask what he is looking for? He says "I want love and to share my life with someone special." - Believe it or not, most men do NOT lie when asked a straight forward question.
2. Talk of Future Plans Together
3. Introductions to Friends and Family
4. Scheduling Dates in Advance
5. Texting Daily
6. Phone Calls
7. Willing to Speak Everyday
8. Actively Setting Up Dates, no texting once per week to setup a booty call
If he wants you and only you, he is going to put in some effort. If he doesn't put in effort try asking the following: "You are an amazing man and I love spending time with you. You would make me the happiest woman in the world if you did ......."
If you try the phrase above and he doesn't deliver, it might be time to look for a new man.
Is Valentine's Day a "Hallmark Holiday" or an opportunity to show your significant other how much she means to you? After asking countless men, both answers were given about equally. But, there was a few points that men agreed on in droves.
Here are those points:
1. If I do nothing on Valentine's Day I am in the doghouse
2. I don't like feeling forced to do something for my gf/wife, I would like to do it at random when I WANT TO DO IT!
Ladies - The men have spoken. This is how they feel.
What should you do to alleviate your man's stress?
Early Relationship - Tell him, "No matter what we do on valentine's day, as long as we are together I will be happy" - Take the pressure off of him. Set the bar of making you happy so low that he feels like he can't fail. Once the pressure is off, he will feel stress free and then have the freedom to plan something special if he wants to.
IMPORTANT - Talk to your significant other about your expectations for valentine's day. If you hate the holiday, tell him. Also review my article on love languages to ensure you and your significant other understand precisely how you like to be loved. Whether you prefer gifts, acts of service, words of appreciation, quality time, or touching.
What if you are single?
Let's get you a man. Setup your 15 minute phone call with me now. Here is a link to my calendar, book an appointment and let's work together so that in 2017 and every year there after you have a Valentine!
Who am I?
Mike Goldstein is a dating coach who helps clients through one-on-one coaching and currently has 6 clients married with 7 children between them. He has been featured on the Today Show, NJ.com, Patti Knows of Millionaire Matchmaker, and Shape Magazine. 83% of Mike's clients enter relationships during coaching and he currently has 100% client satisfaction.
We all go on so many first dates. Most of them are not great. However, every once in awhile the date goes very well. You get home, you start thinking about the person and begin to see how your life could be different with them in it. You have feelings of butterflies, excitement, and curiosity about whether this person could be something great.
However, soon after, you start to wonder, should I call the person, should I text, will he reach out to me? Ah!!!!!! What should you do?
First, you need to have a process on whether this person truly has the qualities you need in a life partner. This process can be found here. No willy-nilly dating here. We only focus our time on men that meet the standard we know we need!
Now, assuming he has the traits YOU NEED. The next step is super simple.
Do absolutely NOTHING.
Don't over think it, don't text him. Do NOTHING.
Why are you doing this?
The man's actions after early relationship dating will tell you all the story you need to know about whether he likes you or not.
If he texts/calls you within 48 hours, things are looking promising. If he asks you out again within 48 hours, this is a good sign.
If a man is interested in you, he will move hell and high water to get to you. You need not do anything. He is coming for you if interested.
If for some reason he doesn't reach out, don't be insulted and try to not to get upset. This decisions to not reach out has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU PERSONALLY.
He is not interested simply because he is looking for something different. The something different could be a million things but here is a few examples
1. He wants sex and realizes you want a relationship
2. Wants someone who is athletic, you are more of a book person
3. Prefers a woman who is curvy, you have a skinny tennis body
4. He only dates circus clowns :)
5. This list could go forever
My point is simple. When you like someone and they don't like you back it is easy to think something is wrong with you. However, that is 100% not the case. The person is simply looking for something different. You are fantastic in your own right. This guy is the wrong guy for you. Every pot has a lid. This is not your lid, time to keep searching.
But, every time you meet someone promising, remember, just do NOTHING after the 1st date. He is going to tell you everything you need to know by how and when he pursues you.
Happy Dating Ladies and Gentleman. I look forward to hearing your success stories. If you are reading my blogs and noticed I missed a topic, please email me your questions at datingcoachmike@gmail.com
