You have been dating the same guy for awhile. He has texted you daily, he has cooked you dinner, he has even had sex with you. But one day he disappears. He stops texting and calling.
Why did he do it?
Watch this video for the real answer that most dating coaches refuse to tell you.
In case, you can't do a video right now. Read Below:
It's time to tell you the truth. No one knows the specific reason "your guy" left. But, what I can tell you is something that can change your life. It certainly changed mine when I heard it for the first time.
"No one can you make you feel anything, you control how you feel." So if you are sad because your guy disappears, or you are depressed because it's winter and you haven't seen the sun in 5 months make the decision to feel happy.
What is the first step to accomplishing this?
Trick Your Brain.
Right Now, make a huge smile, try to be in a bad mood. You can't do it. You can't be in a bad mood with a huge smile on your face.
Second step, start changing your vocabulary. If someone asks, How are you?"
Say, "Amazing, phenomenal, I am having the best day of my life."
When you use these words, much like smiling for no reason, you will trick your brain. Pessimistic about my concept, try it for 21 days and report back. 21 days too long. Try it for one day. Let me know if it worked?
I can promise these little tricks will make your life a little sweeter.
Men are a mystery. Your Guy can text you daily and possibly not be that into you. He could buy you roses and not care one iota about you. He can even have sex with you and not even like you. So how the bleep are you to know if he likes you or not?
No worries my friend, I created the following video which will give you 4 clear signs that he is into you.
In case you can't watch the video, here are the 4 signs.
1. Make Future Plans Together
2. Introductions To Friends and Family
3. He Will Do Things With Or For You That He Doesn't Want To Do
4. He Keeps Dating You Even After You Don't Sleep With Him
I remember in my mid twenties going on a bunch of first dates. I would come home and think to myself, that was fun I am going to ask her on a 2nd date. Or I would come home and think, that was not so fun I think I will go pursue other options. This process is standard procedure for most daters.
However, if you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, shouldn't there be a more decisive and sophisticated process? The answer should be an emphatic, Yes!
So what should you do?
Build Your Perfect Person List
Step 1 - Write down every quality you want in a person.
Step 2 - Pick your top 5.
Moving forward, you only go on second dates with people that possess your top 5 qualities. However, since you are always changing, this list should be very fluid. If you decide quality 8 is now more important than quality 4, simply switch them out. But, always have a list of no more than 5 qualities. This system will allow you to be realistic and firm with clear boundaries all at the same time.
So what are you waiting for? Go on some first dates now that you have an easy system to decide who gets a 2nd date.
