One of the biggest complaints my female clients have are guys bombarding them with nude picture requests. That and unwanted penis pictures.
This behavior can be fun and make a relationship more exciting when both parties are comfortable with each other. But in the early stages of dating, a naked photo request puts women in an awkward situation.
On one end you probably don’t want to send a naked picture to someone you're still getting to know. On the other side you don’t want the man to feel rejected.
With that in mind I give you my patented "naked photo" request response:
"I love sending photos but I reserve that fun for men I’m in an exclusive relationship with. Maybe someday that will be you. Until then you’ll have to earn it."
I love this response because men should be rewarded when they perform the behavior you want them to perform.
In this case, you want this man to continue to chase/court you, but in a less sexual fashion—for now. Once he does the preferred behavior of making the relationship exclusive, he will earn the possibility of photos if you feel comfortable.
In general, men need to receive more benefits in a relationship then when they are casually dating. It will motivate them to get into a relationship and eliminate the fear of being committed.
Here are some other ways to intice them:
1. Priority response to texts/phone calls
2. Special sex reserved for monogamy
3. Availability to weekend dates and prime nights; Friday/Saturday Night
4. On demand sex
5. More active role in understanding your man and making him comfortable
6. Cooked meals for the week
7. Love notes
Bottom line is the transition to monogamy should be one of triumph and a better lifestyle together. Not handcuffs and regret. Now go out there and make men throw their hands up in the air in pure happiness to be with you!
During my online dating days, one of my biggest frustrations was communicating electronically with people for extended periods of time.
The back-and-forth messaging went on for days and I was never quite sure if the other person liked me or not. I also wasn’t a very witty or charming writer, which gave people who were a huge advantage over me.
I did feel, however, that I was a personable date once we met face-to-face, so I had to figure out a way to go from chatting online to meeting for the first date quickly.
Here’s how you do it.
(The following advice is strictly for women. My advice for men is entirely different.)
"Thanks for messaging me. (Answer whatever question he asked in 1-2 sentences). I'm not huge on chatting online. I would rather meet in person to see if there's any chemistry. When you get a free moment, let me know if you want to grab a drink sometime?"
This approach may seem a little forward, but it isn’t.
Men love a strong confident woman who goes after what she wants. Don't be timid. If you want to meet a guy, ask him. After the first date, go back to waiting for him to ask you out. That way you quickly figure out if he’s truly interested in you.
On a side note, men hate chatting online too. The reason they do it is because they think most women prefer it. If you take the initiative you’ll make his life better by getting both of you out of digital purgatory and into real world dating.
Your online dating profile picture is like the gatekeeper to your digital love life. If the guy is NOT immediately attracted to your picture, he is NOT going to read your profile. It doesn’t matter how amazing you are or how well written your profile is. Guys do not read those interesting facts unless they like your profile picture.
To help you put together the perfect online profile picture and optimize your ability to find a high-quality partner, I’ve listed some guidelines to follow below. These are not my opinion. They are facts based on analytics from one of the major players in the online dating space.
This is your bible to select the perfect profile pictures.
1. Do not have anyone else in the picture with you, especially someone of the opposite gender
2. Make the picture as close to a square as possible
3. Don’t be too far or too close to the camera and center yourself in the frame (Your face should make up 8-15% of the surface area of the entire photo)
4. Vary your photos to show different life experiences (IE: skiing, traveling, relaxing on the beach, etc.)
5. Don't wear scantly clad outfits in most of the pictures
6. Use as many as photos as possible
7. Look stunning in 80% of the photos and show yourself doing fun activities in the other 20%
The reason No. 7 is so important is I want the guy to be attracted to you first and foremost. Then, I want him to image a life with you. I want him to picture bike riding, traveling, or hiking with you. If he starts by being attracted to you and then is enchanted by your lifestyle, there’s a strong chance he’s going to message you.
After creating the perfect picture, the next step is writing a great profile. Here’s a story I wrote which can help you with that. If you’re tired of reading, here’s a video on the topic.
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