Gone are the days you had to depend on your friend or your social circle to get you a date. Now, with the rise of dating apps, life has become relatively easier. However, as life moves into the virtual realm, people tend to forget more and more on how to behave or handle themselves. There is no basic etiquette book on this since most of us learn through experience, but some common rules are good to follow. And if this is your first rodeo, then you will make mistakes. But don’t worry, this dating fairy godmother has got your back.
Yes, mistakes will be made but we all learn from our experiences, so, here are 12 things you should avoid doing on Tinder:
1. Don’t leave your bio blank
Sure, it’s cool to be mysterious but it’s not helpful if you want anyone to swipe right on you. If you’re confused about what to put on your bio, just write on who you are, what you like, what you’re looking for and what you should do, and that should enough to craft a good tinder bio.
2. Don’t write your bio like you’re 14
This is pretty self-explanatory but if your profile reads like dis, then chances are, no one will be swiping right on you anytime soon. Also, curb the urge to write in mixed cases because tHAt’s nOt c00l. You just come off as juvenile and uneducated.
3. Choose the right photo
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder but the world of online dating doesn’t depend on it alone. Gym selfies are a big no-no, so are dimly lit moody pictures and too many selfies. Choose an image that is happy, sunny and has positive vibes; and honestly, more than 2 selfies make you seem narcissist, and that isn’t attractive. Upload something that shows who you are and not what you think the world wants you to be.
4. Fewer ideals, more of you
Defining your ideal partner on your bio may unintentionally make people who don’t fit your definition to the T rule themselves out. Alternatively, try to make your bio about your interests. You might be surprised by who takes your fancy, so keeping an open mind is good.
5. Avoid negativity
Following the above-mentioned point, don’t put a whole list of your pet peeves on your bio. Avoid using strong words like hate or despise; instead, put in things you like—chances are you may be swiped right more if you do so.
6. Creeping people out
We get it you’re really interested, but that doesn’t imply you go on a campaign to woo them no matter what. It’s not cool to be pursuing someone who’s not interested or send them unsolicited pictures in the middle of the day. Also, try not to put all the weird in your bio—unless someone as weird matches with you.
7. Choosing bad openers
The fate of the first date rests entirely on how you open the conversation—if you are the one to send the first message. Don’t just say “sup”, show a little bit of your personality. Demonstrate the fact that you’ve really read their profile, ask questions about their interests. And most importantly, do not be gross.
8. Not putting any effort into the conversation
Yes, yes we know Tinder is not the app for long conversations but it doesn’t imply that you have to be impolite and kill the conversation. If you reply with a “k”, “haha” or “lol”, it shows you have no enthusiasm. The interaction soon gets boring and you give off the impression that you don’t want this anymore.
9. Nagging is an absolute no-no
If you aren’t aware, the art of wooing a person that starts with mild insults (on his/her appearance mostly) is called negging. The goal is to bring the person's self-esteem down a bit by making them apprehensive, which apparently makes it easier to make your moves on them. ‘Dating gurus’ might swear by it, but you don’t want to be that person; this is not a good strategy at all and makes you seem like a complete jerk.
10. Swipe and snoop
This sounds a bit stalker-ish but in the era of social media, if you don’t do some research before the date, it’s detrimental. You can learn a lot about someone by browsing through their Instagram, Twitter or Facebook. More often than not, people don’t go for a second date if political or religious ideas don’t match. Your match won’t put all this on Tinder but they will be talking about such things on SNS, so do some snooping before that date.
11. Getting in too deep
Everyone has some sort of baggage with them; whether it’s money problems, family drama or a bad relationship. While you want to be true to yourself and share stuff with your date, it’s important to not dump it all on them on the first meeting. Plus, Tinder is known primarily as an app for people who want to hook up and have some fun. If you feel like your date doesn’t want anything more than sex, don’t start telling them your life story--he/she isn’t going to care and that will only bring you down.
12. No swiping on the weekends
This may sound surprising if you consider that Sunday nights are often the most active hours on the app and the urge to swipe while intoxicated is high on Friday nights, but experts say it is actually disadvantageous. Some say that people are attracted to singles who present themselves as having a full and happy life; sitting on their couch on a Saturday night online sends the message that they don’t have a lot happening in their lives.
Reviews.Com reviewed 68 dating sites. At the end of the day they stated OkCupid was the best, which I have been saying for years.
The main reason okcupid is considered the best is the algorithm which matches people performs better than all the other sites.
Reviews.Com had the following to say about okcupid's algorithm.
OkCupid’s algorithm stands out because, while most online dating sites rank you as more compatible with someone if you both answer a question the same way (and less compatible if you answer it differently), OkCupid lets you choose what you want your potential match to answer — and how important that answer is.
For example, on OkCupid, we answered “no” to the question, “Do you ever intentionally try to make people angry just to see how they react?” Any algorithmic dating site would pick up on the fact that we would be more compatible with someone who also answered no to that question. And indeed, we chose “no” as the answer our partner should give (and marked it very important). But sometimes the “both answer the same way” approach doesn’t work so well. One OkCupid question asks, “How would you describe your body?” Our tester chose “slender” — but that’s not necessarily the answer she wants a potential date to give. In reality, she doesn’t care very much about body type at all. OkCupid let her specify that her possible partner could choose any answer: slender, average, athletic, or voluptuous.
Both Reviews.Com and my data has found that using okcupid's algorithm can lead to strong matches and high quality dates. The excerpt above is just a very small piece of the large story that is reviews.com comprehensive dive into online dating sites. If you want to read the whole article, click here.
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