I remember when I first created my online dating profile. It was on okcupid and I was extremely excited for this new and large database of single women. This one girl sent me a simple message saying "hi". After a few back and forth messages I invited her out for a drinks. Her pictures looked amazing and her age said she was 29. Everything seemed reasonable that we could have a good connection.
I showed up to the date and she was at least 40, if not 60lbs heavier than her pictures showcased. Not to mention, she was 10 years older than her profile stated.
Unfortunately, this was not a love connection. (I did keep trying though)
Anyway, what is my #1 piece of advice for online daters?
It is simple!
Look at the match % and search by it.
My clients and myself can vouch, assuming your dating prospect filled out at least 100 if not 200 questions honestly and has a match % of 85% plus, the similarities will be there and the conversation should be great!
Bottom line, in NYC, or really anywhere, time is extremely valuable. Thus, go on dates with match % of 85% or higher to have a much higher chance of having a strong connection.
I hope this is helpful.
Happy Hunting Daters!
The Dating Coach
Mike
PS: If you would like to setup a free dating/relationship strategy session with me personally, please contact me at datingcoachmike@gmail.com
One of the major online dating sites has analyzed millions of data points and together we have come up with the following list of guidlines for building both your profile and selectiong your profile pictures.
Profile Pictures
No one in picture with you – especially opposite gender
Make the picture as close to a square as possible
Don’t be too far or too close to camera
Cleavage – Will Increase Messages (May want to experiment, may get the wrong messages)
Men – Don’t have shirt off
Varied Situations – Beach, Skiing, be in appropriate clothes
Use as many as photos as possible
Profile Advice
Be Specific – EX: Travel: Not I enjoy travel. Say: I went to Paris, Barcelona, and the Philippines.
Don’t talk about previous relationships
Be Positive
White space - Make your profile easy on the eyes
If you are not a bullet point reader but only read paragraphs. Read This because this is the most important advice! Be specific in your online dating profile.
DO NOT SAY: I am honest, fun, love the outdoors, and blah blah blah.
Do Say: When I was 25 I found a briefcase with 300k in it, I brought it to Wells Fargo and recieved a thank you. Every Tuesday and Thursday I play outdoor soccer for an hour.
See the difference between specific story telling and generic adjectives that don't truly tell a person who you are?
