Scouring through online dating profiles trying to find a man who wants commitment takes a lot of effort. While there’s no guarantee their dating profile will tell whether they do or don’t want a real relationship, I have discovered some common threads that typically mean the guy is NOT looking for commitment. Here are some profile signs I’ve found to help you avoid the wrong guy.
1. Profile doesn’t have much detail
A man who is serious about finding a life partner is also serious about filling out his online profile. He’ll take time to write about his interests and hobbies and won’t leave gaping holes in his profile.
2."Looking to see what happens"
If he’s got that quote on his profile, he’s most likely looking for a girl to hook up with, not someone to build a meaningful relationship with.
3. Pictures with Women
If he posts pictures of himself with other women, that's where his head is at. Not on creating a relationship.
4. Any Mention of Sex
Yes, we all love sex and it’s an important part of a relationship. But if a man is truly looking for someone to spend the rest of his life with, he’s not going to include how often he needs to have sex a week to be happy.
5. Pictures that are not good and clearly took no effort
If a guy can't make some effort to find or take some decent pictures for his online profile, how much effort is he going to make in a relationship with you?
If you’re browsing online profiles looking for a lifetime partner and you see any of the above signs, do not message or respond. There is a high chance this guy is NOT looking for commitment.
The best resume gets the job interview. Online dating is no different. The best profile gets the date.
There are a couple key differentiators between the 95% of online profiles, which are not getting optimal results, and the 5% that get 10 to 20 times more communication.
Here’s how you can optimize your online profile:
1. BE SPECIFIC!
2. Don’t talk about previous relationships
3. Be positive
4. Be honest
I highlighted Be Specific because that is the moneymaker. When men look at a profile they want something to send a message about. If you write, “I have a yellow lab named Clover who I walk in central park every morning,” you’re doing two things:
1. You’re telling them something specific about yourself they can relate to
2. You’re giving them an opportunity to message you about a subject they feel comfortable discussing
For example, the typical man might write back something like, “I love labs too. I actually have a black lab named Laddie, who just turned 7. How old is your dog?”
Boom! Conversation started.
What Else is Important in an Online Dating Profile?
Tell the world what you enjoy doing and paint a picture of what your life looks like. If you bike ride every day, make sure you say that. If you like painting, mention that. The point is attracting people with similar interests as you and avoiding people who don't share your interests.
Of course you will still receive messages from men that don't read profiles. But your high quality profile will also attract men serious about finding love. They are the ones analyzing and evaluating your profile based on their interests and they are the ones you want to meet.
1. Change Things Up
Whether it’s online dating, friends setting you up, or drunken hook ups, odds are you’ve found previous dates through similar avenues. Well, if you haven’t found your life partner in that pool yet, it’s time to try another one in 2016. Meeting new people in new ways could be the key to finding a long-term partner.
2. Be Proactive
Don’t wait for someone you like to approach you at a party or to reach out to you for a second date. Take the initiative in your love life and control your own destiny. The worst thing that can happen is the other person says they’re not interested, which actually eliminates wasted time and helps you find someone who does care about you.
3. Meet In Person
Dating online is a great way to meet a lot of people. But speaking with someone in person allows you to read who they truly are. Body language is key to compatibility. The best way to figure out who shares the same feelings as you is by meeting face-to-face.
4. Be Honest With Yourself
Every person wants certain characteristics in their significant other. Before getting into a relationship, write down what matters most to you in a LONG-TERM partner. Use that list as a guide to date people you’re interested in and not waste time on people you’re not. Specifically, use the list described here.
5. Don’t Look Back
There’s a reason you and your ex are not together anymore. Remember those reasons and use them as guides for what kind of person not to date moving forward. Dating similar people and getting different results isn’t going to happen. Make 2016 the year you don’t repeat past mistakes.
