Technology makes flirting safe, fun, and…efficient! The following 3 texts will make him chase you and remind you to be gentle with his heart and ego when he comes running.
Before we get to the 3 texts to make him chase you, a quick review of safe, fun and efficient.
Texts are safe for flirting because there’s little risk of physical harm.
Texts are fun for flirting because we’re able to access a bolder side of ourselves.
Texts are efficient for flirting because—hello—we don’t even need to get out of our PJs.
Let’s say a Goddess like you is in the dating stage and have gone on a couple dates with a guy but you’re unsure of your potential heartthrob’s feelings and you want to get to know him better before deciding if he deserves more of your time. First, you need to make him chase you.
Blame evolution or biology or society, but the reality remains: Men chase. Women choose.
Men value what they work for. Sure, we all do, but men value the effort and therefore the prize—you—more.
Texts To Make Him Chase You #1
“I’m mad at you! ;) You popped into my mind at work and I was so distracted I had to…”
Followed by… nothing! Dead air time, girl friend!
Why it works…
It starts with a tease, moves into an innuendo, and leaves off with wonder. You let him know he’s on your mind and subtly lead him to believe the thought might be naughty. Then you give him the opportunity to chase.
If he replies back right away, he’s interested or at least titillated and curious. If not, he might be uninterested, or just busy.
No matter when he replies, if he wants to know what you “had to do…” here’s your next move…
Texts To Make Him Chase You #2
Wait five minutes then reply with, “Hahaha! I’ll tell you in a bit. Busy right now. xo”
Why it works…
You let him know you’re laughing, then you stall him indefinitely, then let him know you’ve got a life and are in demand (“busy”), and finally finish with sweetness (“xo”).
You don’t want to drag this out too far or he’ll feel defeated and give up, so…
If he persists in wanting to know what you did after allowing thoughts of him to lead you to distraction, then give him a specific time in the near future that you’ll get back to him.
“I’ll text you after 6pm… xxx!” (Then make sure you do. No guy likes a flake.)
Then, sometime between 6:20-6:30pm, text him, “Hey, stranger!” It’ll throw him off and get the conversation rolling.
If he’s super curious or super into you, he’ll likely have already texted you first. Giving the 20 - 30 minutes past 6:00PM lets you find out. Then again, if he doesn’t text you first, he might be busy. Either way, use the same text, “Hey, stranger!”
Now, time to explain your “distracted actions at work” say something like—
“I had to go for a walk and get some fresh air! ;)” or
“I had to go talk with Tony, the gay guy with great hair! ;)”
Both of these deter the convo from going down the sexting path. Sexting is for a good time not necessarily a long time.
If he doesn’t persist in wanting to know more at this point, he’s either a crappy communicator, hates texting or quite possibly is not that into you. In which case, text this.
“ “ (In other words—nothing. Nada. Next. Move on. #efficiency)
Texts To Make Him Chase You #3
Let’s say you’re wondering about the crappy communicator guy, because you can’t help but like something about him—or some other guy who’s feelings you’re unsure of—try this one…
“Hey Sexy! I’m with some friends at X place, you should come!”
Why it works…
You open with a sexually validating compliment—note: never call a man “cute”—then intrigue him by having a life and friends, then honor him by inviting him to said full life. Bonus: The assumption of “you should come” instead of “do you want to join us” shows confidence.
If he’s interested he’ll either show up or try to make alternate plans in the near future. If he’s not interested, he likely won’t join you and won’t try to make plans.
3 Texts To Make Him Chase You Recap
You’re doing a guy a favor by setting up the chase, because men want to chase.
Men value what they work for.
Be fun, be safe, be flirty—winks, “xo’s” and subtle innuendos work wonders.
Enticing texts give a man who’s on the fence incentive to chase, but…
If he isn’t into you, he isn’t right for you! Next.
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Anna Jorgensen is a dating coach in Vancouver, Canada and founder of Wingmam.com. Anna offers online programs on how to understand the opposite sex, get sexy and find love while being authentically you.
Have you ever wondered about what texts you should send to make a man feel crazy about you? Have you stressed about sending the "perfect" text to make him feel special?
Agonized over what to text to win him back? Girl, we have all been there!
While texting shouldn't be the primary form of communication if your goal is to form a healthy, happy, long-term relationship, giving great text can definitely move thinks along. Here are nine texts any man will find irresistible.
1. Hey Handsome: This is a fun and playful text that makes him feel like a stud. Why? Because men are more insecure about their looks than you could ever imagine.
2. Good Morning Sunshine! I just woke up to the craziest dream about you. Bonus: Share the dream! What guy wouldn't want to know you spent the night dreaming of him and woke up thinking about him? Note: Don't send this text unless you've actually had a dream about a man!
3. Goodnight (Insert name/pet name): A man loves to know that he's the one you go to bed thinking about!
4. Just saw _____, and it made me think of you. This is a simple reminder that lets him know that he's on your mind.
5. A cute photo of you with a caption about something that you are currently doing. It need not be sexual. If a guy is really into you, he will appreciate a candid, silly image. But while you are at it..............
6. A sext: It doesn't hurt to send a sexy text or two! Something along the lines of "I'm not wearing any underwear and....." could work wonders. Be careful about sending racy photos. You have to really trust the guy....and trust that your images won't end up on the internet.
7. An Open-Ended Question: Men love to feel needed. Your guy will melt once he becomes your-go-to-person for advice. It doesn't matter what you ask him. It could be anything from his recommendation for BBQ restaurants or which space heater you should by.
8. The inappropriate thoughts you would never say out loud: You know that he'll feel special when you send him your most candid, politically incorrect, brutally honest thoughts about every day matters. (Especially if you are usually quite reserved and polite!) Think of yourself as a cartoon character sharing your thought bubble.
9. I love/ miss you: Life is short; you could really never say it enough! If he feels the same way, he will be thrilled to hear it! If his feelings aren't as strong, he will be flattered and more motivated to share his feelings if/when they catch up to yours.
Rachel Russo, MS, MFT is a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker. She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach. Rachel is the founder of Rachel Russo Relationships-a NYC-based dating and relationship consultancy-and has worked as a matchmaker for eleven years. Rachel is the author of two books: A Fab Job Guide To Become A Matchmaker and How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style. Rachel has pretty much earned her PhD in men—many thanks to a reality-date-a-thon in which she went on ninety-two dates in one year and blogged about them.
More about Rachel at www.RachelRusso.com
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I see thousands of first conversations. They happen when I am running speed dates or bringing clients out into the field or at networking events. Every day, millions of people are having a first conversation. For many people, this is something that they struggle with. Whether it’s some social anxiety, a natural inclination to introspectiveness or that you don’t know how best to showcase yourself, holding conversations can be difficult for some people. Now add to the fact that it’s someone that you’re interested in and your synapses and hormones are caroming everywhere. It can be a nerve-wracking affair! So here are some tips to help get that first conversation off to a roaring start!
1. Ask positive emotional questions
In order to stand out and create some great chemistry, avoid the normal, logical, “dating interview” questions like, “Where are you from,” “What do you do,” and “Where did you go to school.” We’ve all had to ask and answer those questions thousands of times. Boring! Instead, learn to ask them emotionally. This will make them remember happy moments, feel happy and intertwine you with their positive feelings.
Examples:
2. Have stories that illustrate your best qualities
There are masculine and feminine energies. Everyone should have a mix of both. Some examples of masculine traits/energies are: risk taking, assertiveness and competitiveness. A few samples of feminine traits/energies are: nurturing, sociability and empathy. You want to make sure that you showcase these characteristics as they are some of the things that men (unknowingly or not) are looking for. I am NOT saying to downplay any aspect of you, just to bring these energies to the forefront. And like anything, don’t list, describe. Instead of saying you’re compassionate, tell a story where your compassion takes center stage.
3. Compliment men correctly
We all like compliments! They make us feel good and show that we are notices and appreciated by others. However, men and women are built differently so it would make sense that we should complement each other differently. Many of the compliments that mean a lot to women are based around physicality and beauty. “That is a beautiful dress!” “You’re looking lovely tonight!” And while, yes, it’s nice to know that you like the color of our shirt, it doesn’t affect us the same way. As men, we like to feel that we are capable, virile and respected. Tell us that we are strong, congratulate us on how we handled a difficult situation, compliment our skill at the pool table. These things will puff us up and make us feel needed and appreciated. I know that you can carry that box up the stairs because you are a strong and capable woman. However, if you say, “I know you’re strong, would you mind carrying this for me?” you’ll immediately tap into what makes us men!
4. Understand the man’s mind
On average, a woman speaks 30,000 words a day while men only use 10,000. That doesn’t mean that we don’t communicate, it’s just that we don’t use words as much. So when I have my male clients, I suggest they up their word game and when I coach women, I recommend that they truncate themselves a bit. Going into excessive detail responding to, “How was your day,” is not what a man is looking for. Save the deep delving for your close girlfriends. Instead, try and mirror how he talks. If he responds to a question with 5-7 sentences, keep your responses to 5-7 sentences. That way, you’ll keep his interest and leave him wanting more!
About Author
Hunt Ethridge is a Dating and Relationship expert who has helped hundreds of men and women over the last decade. He is the founder of International Dating Coach Association and has written over 100 articles across all mediums on the subject of dating and love. You can find more of Hunt's advice at HuntForAdvice.com.
