I have spent years studying online dating and perfecting the process of selecting photos and writing profiles that reflect exactly who you are so the right people send and respond to your messages. This aspect of my business has been wildly successful and makes up the majority of my client's relationships. However, it has always troubled me when single people/clients relied solely on online dating to find someone to date.
They are missing out on various other ways to meet people. Specifically, meeting people in person. Historically, women when they were interested in someone, would stare, maybe smile and hope the guy would come over and chat. To date, this is considered the best "mouse trap" for getting men.
However, based on my studies I have seen this work about 5 - 8% of the time. Thus 95 to 92% of the time the guy never approaches. I am sorry, but staring is NOT the best mouse trap if the best it can do is get an 8% success rate. Do you agree?
So a few years ago, I racked my brain for something simple that would warrant action from men. Boom! Here it is!
WAVE AT THE GUY!
Now before you think I am crazy, let me explain. If you wave, it forces him to do something. He can either cower in the corner, smile, or wave back. If you want, you can then wave for him to come over.
Why is this fantastic?
1. Shows you are confident (Confidence is rated the #1 Sexiest Characteristic of the Opposite Sex)
2. Men are afraid of rejection - This removes this fear and communicates you 100% would like to be approached
What are the results of the wave?
85% of wavers get a reaction. I am not saying 85% is favorable. But, 85% of the time the waver knew where she stood with the guy based on his reaction.
You can do this at a bar, at the grocery store, on public transit, literally everywhere. If you are shy and scared, try and get over it. This will work. Try New Things. I have tried this thousands of times, via myself, clients, and friends, it is leaps and bounds more successful than the stare.
Have some fun, wave at a stranger, be playful, and have a conversation and see if you have some similar interests. (At a minimum you at least know you are attracted to the person)
Okay, no more reading, Go Get'em Tiger!
Every relationship has a honeymoon period. We have all felt it. It is that great feeling when you finally feel butterflies for someone. Even after the butterflies disappear, if the relationship continues to progress you eventually fall in love. Now, after 3 months, 6 months, or 2 years later or more the chemistry has started to fade and it is time to see what the relationship is made of.
First, here is how I define chemistry fading:
1. Sex/Intimacy has decreased to once per week
2. Routine of activity has set in
3. Dates or seeing each other is just going through the motions
4. You may start to wonder if there is someone better out there
Now, some daters will send their significant other swiftly back into the dating pool to go searching for that "high" that can only be obtained in the honeymoon stage. But for the rest of us that want to stay with the person we are with, there has to be a way to re-gain the chemistry.
I spent countless hours researching this and eventually got fed up with many writers coming up with lists as long as 15 plus to get the romance back. Although I didn't disagree with the advice, this is EZ Dating Coach and everything needs to be easy because if something is hard to do, no one is going to do it. Thus, I have figured out there is only 2 things you need to do to get chemistry back.
1. Compliment Your Partner and Remind Them Why You Fell In Love With Them
This is so valuable. Everyone gets insecure. Everyone needs to be reminded of their great qualities. If you can make your man feel special, loved, and appreciated, he will be in a more loving spot to 1. return the favor and 2. provide you with whatever you need in the relationship to feel special.
2. Break Routine and Do Something New/Fun with Partner
This is a must. Routine is amazing for pro athletes, sleeping, avoiding getting sick, and many other reasons. But if every week you watch Netflix on Friday, order a pizza, and go to bed, eventually your weeks will get stale. Shake things up and do something different.
Plan a weekend away, HAVE FUN TOGETHER, and be curious about how your man has changed since you last got to know him. The exciting part about relationships is that your partner is constantly changing so there will always be new things to learn. Not to mention, your partner is always learning new things every day, perhaps you can get him to teach you what he learns. It could be something very interesting to you, not to mention, men love to show off their knowledge and feel smart in front of their ladies.
