Technology makes flirting safe, fun, and…efficient! The following 3 texts will make him chase you and remind you to be gentle with his heart and ego when he comes running.
Before we get to the 3 texts to make him chase you, a quick review of safe, fun and efficient.
Texts are safe for flirting because there’s little risk of physical harm.
Texts are fun for flirting because we’re able to access a bolder side of ourselves.
Texts are efficient for flirting because—hello—we don’t even need to get out of our PJs.
Let’s say a Goddess like you is in the dating stage and have gone on a couple dates with a guy but you’re unsure of your potential heartthrob’s feelings and you want to get to know him better before deciding if he deserves more of your time. First, you need to make him chase you.
Blame evolution or biology or society, but the reality remains: Men chase. Women choose.
Men value what they work for. Sure, we all do, but men value the effort and therefore the prize—you—more.
Texts To Make Him Chase You #1
“I’m mad at you! ;) You popped into my mind at work and I was so distracted I had to…”
Followed by… nothing! Dead air time, girl friend!
Why it works…
It starts with a tease, moves into an innuendo, and leaves off with wonder. You let him know he’s on your mind and subtly lead him to believe the thought might be naughty. Then you give him the opportunity to chase.
If he replies back right away, he’s interested or at least titillated and curious. If not, he might be uninterested, or just busy.
No matter when he replies, if he wants to know what you “had to do…” here’s your next move…
Texts To Make Him Chase You #2
Wait five minutes then reply with, “Hahaha! I’ll tell you in a bit. Busy right now. xo”
Why it works…
You let him know you’re laughing, then you stall him indefinitely, then let him know you’ve got a life and are in demand (“busy”), and finally finish with sweetness (“xo”).
You don’t want to drag this out too far or he’ll feel defeated and give up, so…
If he persists in wanting to know what you did after allowing thoughts of him to lead you to distraction, then give him a specific time in the near future that you’ll get back to him.
“I’ll text you after 6pm… xxx!” (Then make sure you do. No guy likes a flake.)
Then, sometime between 6:20-6:30pm, text him, “Hey, stranger!” It’ll throw him off and get the conversation rolling.
If he’s super curious or super into you, he’ll likely have already texted you first. Giving the 20 - 30 minutes past 6:00PM lets you find out. Then again, if he doesn’t text you first, he might be busy. Either way, use the same text, “Hey, stranger!”
Now, time to explain your “distracted actions at work” say something like—
“I had to go for a walk and get some fresh air! ;)” or
“I had to go talk with Tony, the gay guy with great hair! ;)”
Both of these deter the convo from going down the sexting path. Sexting is for a good time not necessarily a long time.
If he doesn’t persist in wanting to know more at this point, he’s either a crappy communicator, hates texting or quite possibly is not that into you. In which case, text this.
“ “ (In other words—nothing. Nada. Next. Move on. #efficiency)
Texts To Make Him Chase You #3
Let’s say you’re wondering about the crappy communicator guy, because you can’t help but like something about him—or some other guy who’s feelings you’re unsure of—try this one…
“Hey Sexy! I’m with some friends at X place, you should come!”
Why it works…
You open with a sexually validating compliment—note: never call a man “cute”—then intrigue him by having a life and friends, then honor him by inviting him to said full life. Bonus: The assumption of “you should come” instead of “do you want to join us” shows confidence.
If he’s interested he’ll either show up or try to make alternate plans in the near future. If he’s not interested, he likely won’t join you and won’t try to make plans.
3 Texts To Make Him Chase You Recap
You’re doing a guy a favor by setting up the chase, because men want to chase.
Men value what they work for.
Be fun, be safe, be flirty—winks, “xo’s” and subtle innuendos work wonders.
Enticing texts give a man who’s on the fence incentive to chase, but…
If he isn’t into you, he isn’t right for you! Next.
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Anna Jorgensen is a dating coach in Vancouver, Canada and founder of Wingmam.com. Anna offers online programs on how to understand the opposite sex, get sexy and find love while being authentically you.
When you are going through a breakup, there is unfortunately no magic wand that someone can wave over you to make everything instantly better. It can literally seem like the worst feeling on earth and as though you will never be able to recover from it. That said, we all go through breakups. It just takes time, patience, and developing the right mindset to move on from them. You need to look at your relationship from the outside in - with your head and not just with your heart.
We often get so caught up in the sadness of breakups, that it can cause us to lose sight of why the breakup happened. You need to realize that if your relationship was happy and healthy, there wouldn’t have been a breakup in the first place. Even if you were not the one who initiated the breakup, you need to focus on the fact that if someone chose not to be with you, you shouldn’t want to be with them either. You deserve someone who loves you and can’t even fathom the thought of losing you. Life is too short to settle for mediocre.
The first thing you can do to start the healing process is to go no contact. This means no texting, no calling, no emailing, and no social media. Nothing. If you maintain contact with this person in any fashion, you will just be prolonging your pain. Stay away from checking up on them online or asking common friends about them. It will only hurt you more. Do not respond to them if they try to contact you either. They chose to breakup with you, so let them live with their decision. They are probably hurting to some degree as well, but don’t give them the benefit of knowing that they have a hold on you and can have you back at a moment’s notice. If you end up caving in, they will likely just end up hurting you again.
Next, whatever you do, you need to stay away from the “shoulda, coulda, woulda’s”. Sure, you can analyze things to death and have a million regrets, but it will do you no good to rehash things in your head over and over again.
Get a piece of paper and make a pro and con list. The only way that this will work, however, is if you are completely honest with yourself about the relationship. Don’t sugarcoat anything or put the other person in a brighter light than they should be in. Write down every single thing that bothered you about the relationship and the person you were with. Then, write down everything that you liked about the relationship. In most cases, the cons will outweigh the pros. Use the con list as a way to keep yourself strong. Read it often to remind yourself of what did not make you happy and what was not working in your relationship. Use the pro list going forward to build on in terms of what you want in a future relationship.
In addition to all of the tips mentioned above, get at least 30 minutes of exercise per day, get plenty of sleep, eat healthy, and declutter your surroundings. Put all material items from your relationship in a box so that you are not constantly reminded of your ex. It’s also a good idea to stay away from the alcohol because that will likely make you feel more depressed and possibly lead to unnecessary drama and embarrassment. Alcohol tends to give us the urge to contact exes when we shouldn’t, and in most cases, that never ends well.
As the saying goes, time heals all wounds. It really does. You just have to hold on, take it day by day, and keep the faith. Stay busy and keep yourself distracted. Focus on goals that you have wanted to accomplish, but may have let slide because you were so caught up in your relationship. This can also be a great way to boost your confidence and self-esteem, which is exactly what you need right now. Remember, the sooner you can heal from this relationship, the sooner you can open your heart to someone else who will be better suited for you. It may seem impossible right now, but one day you will look back and be grateful that this breakup happened – you just don’t see it yet – but you will.
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Trina Leckie is a Breakup Coach and Host of the breakup BOOST Podcast - LISTEN HERE on iTunes. Her mission is to help people heal their hearts and get back in the dating saddle. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.
When you find the one relationship that feels just right, you will realize a lot from that great relationship. Here are 10 of the biggest lessons you can learn from being in a truly healthy relationship.
Show Your True Colors: Being your true self with your partner is vital for the development of a great relationship and your flaws won’t seem as awkward to share if you’re with the right person.
Don’t Lament On The Past: Everyone has a past but you shouldn’t let each other’s get in the way of your present. When you care about someone enough, you learn to accept things for what they are.
Never Assume: You can’t presume you and your partner will know what each other is thinking, even if you’ve been together for a while, so communication is key.
Miscommunication Happens: If your partner says something that offends you, stay calm and ask them what they mean. You wouldn’t want to hurt each other on purpose in a healthy relationship, so chances are that it was a misunderstanding.
Forget the Games: Whether it’s showing someone how much you care for them or expressing when you’re upset, being honest shouldn’t be a fear in a good relationship. Be honest, open and understanding with your feelings and theirs.
Stay Independent: Your individual happiness is crucial to be happy within your relationship. Being able to spend time on your own doing the things each of you enjoy will definitely make you happier.
View Things from Their Perspective: Couples don’t always agree. Don’t let your differing opinions cause fights. Take a step back and try to understand each other’s points of view.
Support Each Other’s Growth: Growing as individuals helps your relationship grow. Always support each other in whatever you each desire to further personal growth and be happy together.
Forgive: Forgiveness and letting go of anger that could impact your relationship in the future is so important. Think of your arguments as lessons to make your future communication constructive.
Trust: Cheating, lying and similar behavior shouldn’t be worries on your mind. In a healthy relationship, you need to have unwavering trust and when you do, you can make it through any problems that may arise.
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