Men are typically the ones notorious for saying "stupid things" but my articles are mostly geared towards women at the moment so ladies get ready to learn what words should never leave your mouth if you want to get and keep a man forever.
Without further ado, either watch this video on this topic or read below:
1. "Nothing is wrong, I am fine." - Men are not mind readers. Tell us what is wrong, if we care about you, we will try to fix it or at least show you compassion and give you support.
2. "Stop, just let me do it!" - First, this sounds like something a mother would say. We know you don't want to be his mom. Second, the male ego is very fragile, if you elude to him not being capable well he will not feel very good on the inside.
3. "I hate when you do that, my EX would never do that." - In order to make a man feel like he is greatest and only man on the planet for you, you need to NEVER compare him to other men. As far and you and him are concerned, he is the only man on the planet in regards of a romantic relationship.
4. "Size Matters" - We just talked about this! Men have fragile egos, especially fragile on something he can't control. It is not like he can eat 2 lbs of Holland Eggplants every week and after 4 months it grows an inch. Not going to happen. But what may happen, is your man shrinks inside himself by learning he may not be large enough to make you fully happy.
So bottom line, don't compare your man to other men, share with him what you need to be happy in the relationship, and finally be supportive when he is trying to accomplishing things with encouragement instead of stealing his thunder and doing it for him. There you have it, some pretty easy stop to keep your relationship moving forward without hiccups.
It is no secret that getting men to open up, show emotion, or talk about their feelings is basically the equivalent of getting the Red Sea to part. It is no easy task. For whatever reason, on average men use about 7,000 words per day while women use about 20,000. So based on this data point, it is clear on average men are less expressive than women. However, there is a way to get men to talk about their feelings. I wanted to outline that process for you today because nothing is sexier than a man who confidently expresses himself and is able to open up.
First,
1. Make A Safe Place For Him To Be Himself
No men is ever going to tell you what he is feeling until he knows you 1. are not going to judge him and 2. are going to accept him for whatever he says. You do this by telling him you are okay with all the things other women were not huge fans of.
For example, if he plays video games once a week, or watches some strange program on television the best thing you can do is encourage him to do these things. After he finishes he will remember how awesome you are, and how different you are from every other woman and hopefully reward you with date nights or at least step up and attempt to make you equally happy.
Step 2. When Both Parties are Upset/Sad - Ask him to share why he is feeling a certain way?
Men hate conflict. Men want women happy all the time. However, that is impossible. Everyone has a down day. But, when you are mad, he wants you to be happy. Tell him, "If you can explain what you are feeling/thinking that will make me feel better." You are challenging him to open up but are giving him a reward at the end of the tunnel. All he needs to do is explain his inner workings and you will start to feel better. Now, once he explains himself do number three.
Step 3. Tell Him, "I feel so much better now and feel great understanding you better"
He is thinking, wow that was easy. I talked for a little bit and all of a sudden we are not arguing. My girlfriend/wife is happy again. That was simple (Men love solving problems). Which leads us to:
Step 4. Appreciate him for being so open, vulnerable and tell him:
"You made me so happy that you are comfortable enough to share your feelings." -
Once again, keep re-enforcing his good behavior. It is vital that he fully understands that in the future if he share his emotions he will 1. be accepted for them, 2. be able to alleviate fights, and 3. be appreciated for his amazing communication skills.
There you have it ladies. You are never going to turn your husband into the communicator your best girlfriend is but with the 4 step process outlined above you can certainly positively reinforce your man into expressing his feelings in a far superior manner than what he may currently be doing.
Going on first dates can be grueling and/or exciting. However, one thing is certain. It is typically going to take quite a few first dates before 1. You are ready to find the one and 2. You actually meet the one. However, before you are fully ready to embark on finding the one you need to get yourself in a desirable position so when you bump into each other he doesn't head for the hills.
Thus, I created the following video to show you 4 Ways to Get The Right Guy To Like You. I created this video not to show you the obvious answers but teach you subtle nuances that you may not even realize you are doing that might be preventing you from landing a guy. Enjoy the video:
In case you were unable to watch the video.
Here are the 4 Ways To Get The Right Guy To Like You
1. Have Your Own Life
You want a man who is passionate about something. Guess what, he wants a woman who is passionate about something. Maybe once a week you go to dance class, jujitsu, chess workshop, or soccer. Any of these activities will draw a certain type of guy to be intrigued by your passion.
2. Have Your Own Opinion
Easy to Understand Ex: He asks, where do you want to go to dinner Thursday? Your respond, "I don't know." This is a very typical answer and quite frankly frustrating. The guy is asking because his main goal is to make you happy and then receive appreciation for making you happy. If you don't give him a specific road map on how to make you happy, he may struggle to figure it out on his own. If he can't figure out how to make you happy, he will move on to look for someone he can make happy.
So on this particular example, here is what you should do. You Say, "I want Italian food." Then he can research and find great Italian restaurant. When you are on the date, you can say, "This is the best Italian food I have ever had. Thank you so much for taking me here." (He feels like he just conquered the world) GREAT JOB!
3. Wear something you feel comfortable in
If you wear the sexiest outfit in the world but you are fidgeting, you will not come off sexy. Wearing something nice that you feel comfortable in, that doesn't require constant movement to make sure things stay where they are supposed to and you will be able to 1. focus on the conversation and 2. be confident and sexy.
4. Ask Him Questions and Don't belittle his answers
Don't Do This - He says, "I did this 2 minute interview on Fox News." You says, "That's so cool, my friend Tony had a 15 minute segment."
Although, it is great that you are relating on a similar topic, it is terrible that you used another man as the connection point and worse yet, your story is bigger and better than his. Your guy will shrink into his chair and feel very small.
Instead say, "Wow, that is amazing. What was the segment on?"
Alright folks, there you have it, How to Get The Right Guy To Like You. Once again, make sure to have your ducks in a row and then go out there, be vulnerable and go on some dates. Remember, just because one date is terrible doesn't mean the next one won't be great. You only need one guy to find the one.
