Your online dating profile picture is like the gatekeeper to your digital love life. If the guy is NOT immediately attracted to your picture, he is NOT going to read your profile. It doesn’t matter how amazing you are or how well written your profile is. Guys do not read those interesting facts unless they like your profile picture.
To help you put together the perfect online profile picture and optimize your ability to find a high-quality partner, I’ve listed some guidelines to follow below. These are not my opinion. They are facts based on analytics from one of the major players in the online dating space.
This is your bible to select the perfect profile pictures.
1. Do not have anyone else in the picture with you, especially someone of the opposite gender
2. Make the picture as close to a square as possible
3. Don’t be too far or too close to the camera and center yourself in the frame (Your face should make up 8-15% of the surface area of the entire photo)
4. Vary your photos to show different life experiences (IE: skiing, traveling, relaxing on the beach, etc.)
5. Don't wear scantly clad outfits in most of the pictures
6. Use as many as photos as possible
7. Look stunning in 80% of the photos and show yourself doing fun activities in the other 20%
The reason No. 7 is so important is I want the guy to be attracted to you first and foremost. Then, I want him to image a life with you. I want him to picture bike riding, traveling, or hiking with you. If he starts by being attracted to you and then is enchanted by your lifestyle, there’s a strong chance he’s going to message you.
After creating the perfect picture, the next step is writing a great profile. Here’s a story I wrote which can help you with that. If you’re tired of reading, here’s a video on the topic.
NEED HELP WITH YOUR PHOTOS?
LIVE ANYWHERE IN THE UNITED STATES?
I only trust one company for the PERFECT PROFILE PICTURE.
I trust Look Better Online. Click here to be taken to their site and explore getting one of their photographers and setup a photo shoot. (All my clients use LOOKBETTERONLINE.COM)
1. Change Things Up
Whether it’s online dating, friends setting you up, or drunken hook ups, odds are you’ve found previous dates through similar avenues. Well, if you haven’t found your life partner in that pool yet, it’s time to try another one in 2016. Meeting new people in new ways could be the key to finding a long-term partner.
2. Be Proactive
Don’t wait for someone you like to approach you at a party or to reach out to you for a second date. Take the initiative in your love life and control your own destiny. The worst thing that can happen is the other person says they’re not interested, which actually eliminates wasted time and helps you find someone who does care about you.
3. Meet In Person
Dating online is a great way to meet a lot of people. But speaking with someone in person allows you to read who they truly are. Body language is key to compatibility. The best way to figure out who shares the same feelings as you is by meeting face-to-face.
4. Be Honest With Yourself
Every person wants certain characteristics in their significant other. Before getting into a relationship, write down what matters most to you in a LONG-TERM partner. Use that list as a guide to date people you’re interested in and not waste time on people you’re not. Specifically, use the list described here.
5. Don’t Look Back
There’s a reason you and your ex are not together anymore. Remember those reasons and use them as guides for what kind of person not to date moving forward. Dating similar people and getting different results isn’t going to happen. Make 2016 the year you don’t repeat past mistakes.
A few months ago I was sitting on a girls bed, we just had a great day date, we walked around the upper west side. Then grabbed a drink at a trendy specialty cocktail bar. Next, we grabbed a quick dinner and then we retreated back to her apartment to relax and watch a movie.
All day I had been thinking about how I was crazy about the girl and quite simply I would be happy to stop dating other women and just focus on her. However, in the past I was always the quintessential Mr. Indecisive and sometimes could take 3-6 months of casual dating until I asked a girl to be exclusive.
Anyway, on her bed, on that evening, I was jumping out of the plane with no chute and was going for it. I asked her if she would like to be exclusive.
Her response, "I am flattered, but are you asking me just so I will have sex with you?"
This made me realize we have 2 Major Problems in the Dating World:
1. Women sometimes perceive men as willing to do anything to get laid
2. MEN NEED TO STOP LYING ABOUT THEIR TRUE INTENTIONS
I am going to focus on #2 first because that drives me crazy for 2 Reasons:
1. You get what you ask for
2. If you are honest you get laid more often!!!!!!!!!
Dear Men,
Confidence is sexy. Tell a woman you are speaking to her because she is beautiful, sexy, fun to talk to, and ultimately you would like to have sex with her but are not looking for a relationship. Since you are being honest there is a good chance she will APPRECIATE your honesty and confidence and continued to be intrigued by what you are offering, which in this case is purely SEX.
Dear Ladies,
When it comes to a man asking for your hand in an exclusive relationship, we mean it. Especially, if you make us work for it. If we have went on the trouble to go on 5+ dates, we are continuing to date you because we like you. Very few men are willing to go on 5+ dates just to get laid. The man who wants to get laid will convince some girl at a bar, go on tinder, or do anything that involves less effort.
The man looking for a meaningful relationship, goes on dates, asks questions about you, wants to meet your family and friends, plans the future with you, and simply gets to know you. This same man, when he is ready will ask you to be monogamous.
Ladies, Men do not ask women for exclusivity to get laid. Men ask women for monogamy because they are convinced they have met their queen, their vision of the perfect woman. Enjoy it, be flattered, and if you feel the same way, accept his proposal.
Happy Dating,
Mike
Ready to find a man that knows with 100% certainty that you are his perfect woman? Setup a 15 minute phone strategy session with me to start the process of finding love now. I can be booked at https://mikegoldstein.youcanbook.me/
