Men are typically the ones notorious for saying "stupid things" but my articles are mostly geared towards women at the moment so ladies get ready to learn what words should never leave your mouth if you want to get and keep a man forever.
Without further ado, either watch this video on this topic or read below:
1. "Nothing is wrong, I am fine." - Men are not mind readers. Tell us what is wrong, if we care about you, we will try to fix it or at least show you compassion and give you support.
2. "Stop, just let me do it!" - First, this sounds like something a mother would say. We know you don't want to be his mom. Second, the male ego is very fragile, if you elude to him not being capable well he will not feel very good on the inside.
3. "I hate when you do that, my EX would never do that." - In order to make a man feel like he is greatest and only man on the planet for you, you need to NEVER compare him to other men. As far and you and him are concerned, he is the only man on the planet in regards of a romantic relationship.
4. "Size Matters" - We just talked about this! Men have fragile egos, especially fragile on something he can't control. It is not like he can eat 2 lbs of Holland Eggplants every week and after 4 months it grows an inch. Not going to happen. But what may happen, is your man shrinks inside himself by learning he may not be large enough to make you fully happy.
So bottom line, don't compare your man to other men, share with him what you need to be happy in the relationship, and finally be supportive when he is trying to accomplishing things with encouragement instead of stealing his thunder and doing it for him. There you have it, some pretty easy stop to keep your relationship moving forward without hiccups.
I am sure you have already figured this out from all my other articles but men and women are entirely different. Men require independence, appreciation, affirmation, and acceptance in a healthy relationship while women need support, validation, understanding, and attention/affection. While of course these adjectives are not all encompassing they are good start for what we require in amazing relationships. In this article and video I want to focus on how women can compliment men to get the best results. You will be shocked that the way men want to be complimented is the exact opposite of how women want to be complimented. Here is a video illustrating this exact point:
So How Do You Compliment Men?
1. Compliment The Activity He Planned: Declare your happiness to him.
If he plans a date to go to a park. Say, "This park is amazing, I am having the best time with you."
If he takes you to a restaurant. "This salmon is amazing, thank you so much for taking me here. We are also having such a great conversation, I love spending time with you."
When he pulls your chair out for you. "You are such a gentleman. Holding chairs is a lost art but clearly not for you. Thank you so much."
Compliments That Are Less Effective on Men
1. Complimenting His Physical Appearance
"I love that shirt on you, you look amazing."
"I love your new haircut, you are so handsome."
Men will say thank you and maybe even smile to the compliments above but they will find the most happiness from knowing that they are needed and then appreciated by you. They will feel needed when they pull out your chair, needed when they find you the best restaurant, or needed when they pick a great park to walk around in. On top of that, they will feel appreciated when you compliment them on their great selection. So ladies make your man feel like a million bucks and compliment the activity not the man.
Many of my clients are telling me they are only attracted to men that are non-committal. They describe this guy as charismatic, charming, well spoken, worldly, motivated, financially stable and so much more. The only drawback of course is that he is unwilling to commit to a monogamous relationship. Well, that is a HUGE problem when my clients are looking for a soul mate.
So since my clients want these men I needed to figure out how to deliver them to my clients. After lots of research and experimenting I figured out a way that works 97.5% of the time. I describe that method in this 3 minute youtube video: It Is Possible To Get Non-Committal Men
In case you would prefer to read instead of watch here is some more information.
First, a man is only non-committal until they find a woman to commit to. I spoke with hundreds of proclaimed "x-players" that are now happily married and 97.5% stated they had their fun until they found the one that was too valuable to discard.
Now, the common thread in all these men were their ladies made them wait at least 5 dates and typically until in a committed relationship until sleeping together.
I am going to re-iterate. If you want to land your dream guy, you must not sleep with him until commitment.
You and him need to get to know each other. Both parties need to get vested in each other. Vested means, truly like each other personalities, having similar values, and both parties seeing a future in each other.
Once all of this is accomplished, the non-committal guy will be ready to make a commitment because he has found someone special.
