The number one biggest turn off for a man in a relationship is fighting with their partner. When people are fighting, they aren't thinking clearly. The stress and the anger are taking over, making it difficult to resolve any issues. Words that come from a place of discontent fly back and forth, fueling the fire, making everything worse, and ultimately hurting each other. When you are arguing, it's difficult to see past the argument. If it is a good and healthy relationship and you want to move forward together, that's when you need to do whatever you can to work it out.
So, how do you work it out? You need to come up with a plan. Once things have cooled down and you and your partner are both in a happy, good place, discuss a strategy for how you would like to deal with an argument. Personally, I find it helpful to step away and return once I have calmed down. When coming up with our game plan, my girlfriend and I decided to utilize my take-a-breather tactic and it really works for us!
Come up with a plan with your man so that when you have an argument or disagreement, you both know what to do. Men love strategies and formulas and they will love that you both came up with a healthy way to get through your issues. This will make you both feel safer, more confident, and happier in your relationship. You won't only feel closer than ever as you come together as a team, the turn off of fighting will be replaced with the turn on of peaceful, smooth, and easy teamwork.
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Society teaches me that they always have to be strong. "Suck it up!"..."Be a man!"..."What are you, a sissy?"... Words like this have been spoken to men and ingrained in them since they were children. They are taught that sharing their emotions is a sign of weakness. This could not be further from the truth. It actually takes a lot of strength and courage to open up.
Men are human and they need to feel free to share their feelings. Women are allowed to talk about their feelings and men should be able to do the same. Society has made this a place where men don't feel like it's OK to open up. We are going to fix that...at least when it comes to your relationship. Here's how you can help your man open up:
Step 1) Make a safe place for your man to share his feelings:
When your man is happy and in a good place, let him know that it is OK for him to share his feelings with you. Whether he is stressed, depressed, anxious, sad, or happy, you are there for him. Tell him that it will make you happy if he shares with you and doesn't bottle up his emotions.
Talking to him about this when he is in a good mood will ensure that he will feel more comfortable opening up when negative circumstances and emotions put him in a bad mood.
Step 2) When he opens up to you, show him a lot of love and support:
When you see that he is in a bad mood, let him know that you are there if he wants to talk about it. Don't pressure him to talk. Just let him feel free to confide in you if he wants to. He might feel comfortable opening up in the safe space that you have created for him. If he isn't ready, that is completely OK. If he is able to open up, really listen to what he is saying. Offer words of kindness and support and let him know that you are there for him. He will love the feeling of knowing that you are in his corner and unloading all of the negative feelings will make him feel better.
Step 3) Thank him for sharing:
After he opens up, thank him for sharing with you and let him know that you are always there for him. Opening up and sharing is also helpful for the relationship. It doesn't only strengthen your bond, it reassures the woman that everything is OK between the two of you. When a man is bottling up his emotions, he might become distant, leaving the woman worried that something is wrong between them. Sharing let's her know that the problem exists outside of the relationship and talking together makes them both feel more connected to one another. Show him that you appreciate how open he is being and make him feel comfortable sharing in the future.
We all have complex emotions and bottling them up doesn't only take a toll on us emotionally, it can actually make you physically sick. Helping your man open up will help him work through his emotions and it will bring you closer together.
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Have you ever gotten a text from a guy but you just weren't sure how you should respond? Should it be short and sweet? Should you tell him how you feel about him? Should it be serious, sexy, upbeat, or funny? What on Earth should you say? Don't worry! I have some quick, easy, and helpful tips for you!
1) First of all, let him text you first. Most women enjoy having full conversations via text messages. Men usually stick to texting solely for logistics. That means that they prefer to use it to help them set up dates and times. A sweet text message asking him about his day might be more annoying than endearing. Plus, letting him text you first will make him feel like he is chasing you and men love that!
2) Mirror him. If he texts you a long paragraph, you respond with a long paragraph. If he writes you a short text, you respond with a short text. Let him take the lead and set the pace. Your mirroring him will make him feel comfortable and like you are on the same page.
3) If he texts you asking you out but you can't make it that day, text him another date and time that you are available. Remember to be specific! If you simply say that you would love to reschedule and he suggests another day that you aren't free, he will take that as 2 rejections and think that you aren't interested in him.
Keep these 3 tips in mind when texting your man. Now that you know how men like to text, you can make the most of your text messages together.
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