We all want to make our partners happy and sometimes it can be challenging or overwhelming. Don't stress! You'll be surprised how easy it is! I have compiled a list of expert tips to help you be the best girlfriend ever! Check em out:
1) Don't nag. Compliment to effect change.
Nagging someone doesn't help them change. Nagging someone only irritates them, makes them feel bad about themselves, and often leads to conflicts. If there is something that your man is doing that you wish he would change, instead of nagging him, let him know how happy it would make you if he would stop doing it. Once he makes the change, thank him and show him how much you appreciate it. This will help him to change the negative behavior through positive reinforcement.
2) Let him complete tasks by himself.
This is particularly important if your man is feeling down. Your first instinct might be to take extra good care of him but encouraging him to get out and do something will actually be more beneficial to him. Men feel better when they complete tasks. When you motivate your man to get out there and get things done, he will feel so much better. He will also love knowing that you are in his corner, loving and supporting him and helping him to stay motivated.
3) Randomly wear something sexy.
Wearing something sexy is a great way to keep the spark alive. Find out what type of clothing your man finds sexy and surprise him by wearing it. This will keep things fun and exciting!
4) Accept him for who he is.
Everyone has their quirks. Accept your man for who he is and don't try to change him. Your unconditional love will make him feel truly happy and comfortable to be himself.
5) Work as a team.
You can incorporate teamwork into many aspects of your relationship and your lives together. It can be anything from doing your fair share of chores at home to helping each other get through stressful times. Sharing the weight of the load means that neither of you have to carry it alone. You know that you have your teammate there to help you. Sometimes, just knowing that is enough.
Keep these 5 tips in mind. They will make your man feel great and they will show him what a wonderful girlfriend you are. These tips will make you happy, too. Not just because you love making your man happy, but also because they will bring you closer together, help you avoid conflicts, and keep you both in a happy, healthy, and supportive relationship.
Wondering if you would be a good fit for coaching with EZ Dating Coach? Book A complimentary 15 minute strategy session HERE and find out. Let's get you a high quality man that will be yours forever.
Everyone likes to hear a genuine compliment. It makes you feel loved and appreciated and it gives you a boost to your confidence. When complimenting your man, kind words about his appearance or a skill that he may have are really nice but there is a particular type of compliment that might mean more to him. If you compliment a date or activity that he planned, it will make him feel like a superstar! For example, if you go out to dinner and he picks the place, talk about how delicious your meal or how nice the restaurant is.
Why does a compliment like that have such a big effect on a man? It's not like he made the meal or built the restaurant. Compliments like that make him feel good because it is a confirmation of a job well done. He made the right choice and you are having a great time. He will love that he was able to make you happy. Many men are afraid to be in a long term relationship because they are worried that they won't be able to make a woman happy forever. If he sees how easy it is to make you happy, it will take some of that stress off of him. He'll think, "This isn't so hard. I can do this. I can make her happy".
So, next time your man picks the location of your date, if you are having a great time, let him know. This won't only make him feel good, he will realize how easy it was to make you happy and the idea of making you happy forever won't be intimidating anymore.
Wondering if you would be a good fit for coaching with EZ Dating Coach? Book A complimentary 15 minute strategy session HERE and find out. Let's get you a high quality man that will be yours forever.
EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein, was so excited to sit down and talk with Dr. Gary Salyer. He really wanted to pick his brain and learn all that he could from him. Dr. Salyer is the the author of Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Attract Your Soul Mate and he truly is a relationship expert.
The first thing that Mike wanted to ask him was how you can tell if you are in a happy relationship. He was wondering if there is any way to predict a breakup or divorce. Dr. Salyer really broke it down for us. He told Mike that your brain knows when you are really loved when it experiences 4 feelings. When you feel welcomed with joy, worthy of your needs and nourished, cherished and protected, and empowered with choice, then you feel deeply loved.
If you are missing 1 or 2 of these feelings in your relationship, then you and your partner have a few things that you should work on. If you are missing 3 or all 4 of these feelings, that is a good sign that you are in a bad or toxic relationship. If the relationship is worth fighting for and you both agree that it's fixable, you still have a shot. If not, it is probably time to move on.
Next, Mike wanted to ask Dr. Salyer what goes into sustaining a long and lasting relationship. He taught him all about how we can turn toward or turn away from our partner in a relationship. What does that mean? When you toward someone, you are responding in a positive way and being attentive. When you turn away from someone, you are responding in a negative or disinterested way. When you are in a relationship where you both turn toward each other, you are going to feel loved and heard and close to one another. When someone turns away, the other person feels neglected and unimportant and alone.
Dr. Salyer went on to talk about the differences in men's and women's brains. For example, women have emotional process centers on both sides of their brain and men only have it on the right side. Also, women's emotional memory center is twice as large as men's. Under emotional stress, a woman's brain will send 8 times the amount of blood flow to her emotional processing centers while a man's brain will send 8 times the amount of blood flow to the problem solving part of his brain. This means that men and women will experience the same stressful situation in very different ways. Women will need to process their emotions and talk them through while men will need to physically solve the problem. Understanding our differences a little better can have endless positive effects on our relationships.
Next, Mike wanted to know how we can get what we need without getting angry when we are under stress. Whoever begins the conversation should kick things off without having what Dr. Salyer calls a "harsh start". A harsh start is when someone starts speaking with anger or criticism. Studies show that if you have a harsh start, your partner will have a positive response a measly 4% of the time. That means that a whopping 96% of the time, your aggressive harsh start will result in a negative response from your partner. If you both can avoid criticism, ask for what you need and want, and speak to each other in a way that the other can receive it correctly, you can resolve an issue before conflict sets in.
When men and women are triggered, our logical thinking decreases as emotions take over. The person beginning the conversation can set a positive tone, allowing both the man and the woman to calmly resolve a conflict. You really have to stop and think before you speak and remember that what you say can make this a positive and constructive interaction or a negative and destructive interaction. You might need to take a break and clear your head first. After you have calmed down, you will be ready to revisit the conversation. If a man needs to take a break, he needs to tell the woman that he will be back to resolve the issue. If he doesn't, her anxiety might flare up and she will pursue him, making him feel smothered and cornered.
Next, they moved onto the topic of romance. How can couples keep their spark alive? Dr. Salyer told Mike that the trick is to do "small things, often". Doing simple, kind things a lot of the time shows each other a steady flow of love and affection. A big gesture every now and then makes you feel special in the moment but leaves you feeling unimportant the rest of the time. Dr. Salyer blew my mind when he told me the next fact: Research shows that when men who show women affection and attention initiate sex, 75% of the time their women said yes. For men who are not affectionate with their women and don't make them feel loved and heard, they only had sex 6% of the time. 6%? Wow!
In a relationship, you both need to feel loved, respected, and heard. It is also important that you both understand your differences and communicate in a positive way. Challenges will always arise... There is no way around that. The key is to face these challenges together and always lift each other up.
Check out the rest of the interview, here:
Wondering if you would be a good fit for coaching with EZ Dating Coach? Book A complimentary 15 minute strategy session HERE and find out. Let's get you a high quality man that will be yours forever.
