Sometimes, communication between men and women can be tricky. There are a lot of common issues with texting in particular! EZ Dating Coach, Mike, experienced this first hand. He prefers to use texting solely for logistics and his girlfriend misunderstood his short texts as a lack of interest in her. A lot of other people struggle with these issues so Mike was super pumped to talk about texting with his favorite match maker, Rachel Russo. Her insights on texting are really eye opening! She gave some awesome tips to help combat common texting problems between men and women:
First, Rachel teaches us that men process and use less words on a daily basis than women do. If you text a man a long paragraph, it can overwhelm him. How can you make sure that you don't send a text that is just too much? You can shorten and edit your text messages to use as little words as possible. Texting men is all about quality vs. quantity! Your man might not want to have full conversations via text. He most likely prefers texts that are short and to the point.
Next, Rachel talked about the different type of energies that men and women possess. Women with more of a feminine energy like it when the man pursues and chases them and they like following his lead. In these cases, the man should be the one to text the women first. Women with more of a masculine energy are probably very proactive and don't care who texts who first. These types of women should go ahead and text him first! Men with a feminine energy like it when the women texts them first and men with a masculine energy who like the chase might be turned off if a woman texts him too much. So, ask yourself what type of energy you and your man have and go from there.
Rachel went on to tell us about the biggest mistakes that a women can make when texting men, specifically alpha males. In addition to texting a lengthy message, initiating more contact or more dates can also be a bit of a turnoff. You have to let him come to you and pursue you. Also, texting him all the time and sending a lot of photos and videos can make you look overeager. If your man is an alpha male, let him take the lead and keep your messages short and sweet.
Next, they discussed the topic of texting photos to a man. If a man asks you for photos and you aren't comfortable sending them but you are interested in him, write him something playful and light-hearted. If you are open to sending pictures in the future, let him know that so he doesn't feel rejected. Tell him that it has nothing to do with him and you might be open to doing that sometime in the future. If you aren't into, again, let him know that it has nothing to do with him but it just isn't your thing. Keep it playful but be true to yourself. You be the judge. If his photo requests are sending up a red flag for you, listen to your instincts and trust your gut. He might only be interested in a sexual relationship and if that isn't what you are looking for, it's probably best to move on.
Rachel had great insights on the best way to text an alpha male. Next, Mike wanted to know what the best way is to text a beta male is? Rachel said that women might need to take the lead with a beta male when it comes to texting. How can you do this? You can create a conversation that helps him to open up. You can do this by asking open-ended questions. Questions that warrant a simple yes or no answer might result in a short, choppy, and pretty much one-sided conversation. You have to prompt him to get responses from him. Follow up texts are also great! After you go on a date, text him the next day telling him what a wonderful time you had. If you make it obvious that you are interested in him and you would like to see him again, that will eliminate the fear of rejection and give him the courage to take the lead.
Rachel shared some interesting points on phone conversations. There are a lot of people out there, especially millennials, who don't like talking on the phone. If you enjoy talking on the phone and you want to see if your man likes it, simply ask him if he's a phone person when you are out together. Keep it light and don't let him feel cornered or pressured to talk on the phone. You can also suggest that you FaceTime or Skype with each other. Men are very visual creatures and he might be more open to that type of interaction. You can also call him and have short and fun conversations. This will show him that talking on the phone can be very nice. Lastly, you can let him know how much you enjoy talking to him and how even a short phone call to hear about his day and say good night would make you really happy. He is sure to be responsive to this because men love knowing that they made you happy.
Next, Mike asked Rachel about something that he personally struggles with: flirting via text messages! She told him that this is usually different for each couple. She suggested that you use what you know about your partner to flirt with them. What do they like? A little teasing and joking around can be fun and flirty, too. You can also try sending photos. Something cute or funny can go a long way, as well. Keep in mind that you only want to do this every now and then so it doesn't lose its charm.
Texting is quickly becoming people's go to form of communication. These awesome tips will help you to send your man texts that he loves.
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There are some qualities that men find irresistible in women. EZ Dating Coach, Mike, broke down these qualities in 2 of my videos. You'll be surprised at just how easy it is to be irresistible!
In the first video, Mike shares a personal story about a fun beach date that he went on. It was easy and affordable and they really enjoyed getting to know each other. At the end of the night, his date said something that made her truly IRRESISTIBLE! She told him that it was the best date that she had ever been on. He was blown away! This wonderful complement showed him that he could make her happy by planning something easy. Men want women who they can make happy easily. The fear that they won't be able to make a woman happy for the rest of her life is actually what holds a lot of men back from making a commitment.
How can you utilize this information to help make you irresistible? It's easy! Just show your man a lot of appreciation. Get excited about the things that you do together and let him know what a wonderful time you are having. He will love feeling appreciated and special and he will love that he made you happy.
In the next video, Mike shared 2 more qualities that men find irresistible. First, you need to make a man feel needed. Today, women are completely self-sufficient. This is wonderful and absolutely how it should be but it leaves men feeling a little unneeded. This explains why you see a lot of men dating women who don't have their act together. How can successful women make a man feel needed? It's simple! Ask him to help you with something. Even a tiny request can have a big impact.
Once he helps you with something, thank him and make him feel appreciated. Your praise and kind words will make him feel good, not just because they are a reward for a job well done, but also because it is another example of how easy it is to make you happy. Lay it on thick and be over the top with your appreciation! It will make his day and it will make you irresistible!
Next time your man takes you on a date, be sure to compliment the activity, what you are eating, or the location of the date. Next, make him feel needed and appreciated. Everyone wants to be around someone who makes them feel good. Do these things for your man and BOOM! You are irresistible!
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After following Love Breakthrough Specialists, Johnny and Lara Fernandez, for years, EZ Dating Coach, Mike, was ecstatic when he got the chance to sit down and talk with them. He learned a lot in their Q&A session and he was super excited to pass the knowledge along to you! Here is a paraphrased summary of their insightful discussion:
Q) How can you can tell if your guy is the right guy for you?
A) There are several ways to tell if you're dating Mr. Right:
He doesn't disappear on you. He is present and interested in creating a meaningful relationship with a future. Keep in mind, disappearing is different from seeking alone time. We're talking about completely ghosting you, here!
He does what he says he's going to do. When he makes plans and he says that he is going to do something, he always follows through.
You values are in alignment. It is clear that you both want and cherish the same things.
He treats people with respect. He isn't just kind to people that he can get something from, he is kind to everyone.
You realize that he isn't perfect, just like you aren't perfect, but he is perfect for you. Everyone has quirks and everyone makes mistakes now and then. You accept each other and love each other unconditionally, no matter what.
Q) How can you tell the difference between a man disappearing and a man just needing some alone time?
A) There is a big difference between a man disappearing without a trace and a man needing time alone. Men need to have alone time to decompress and relax. This is especially important when they are stressed out or overwhelmed. Spending time in their man cave or out with friends will increase their testosterone. This is good for your man as well as your relationship.
Q) How can women can get a guy to commit?
A) The trick is not to "get him to commit". You shouldn't be forceful or manipulative in any way. You have to activate your man's masculinity by showing him that you are a prize in the relationship. Show him how wonderful it would be if you were in a committed relationship and then you can both move forward toward that goal. You always want to see progress in the relationship. You should both feel excited to be with each other and you should both feel loved and cherished by each other. You have to think about how you feel when you're together right now. Look to the future but don't get caught up in it so much that you can't appreciate the present.
Q) What is the sexiest quality that a woman can have?
A) There are many qualities that men find sexy. There are certain things in particular that really draw a man to a woman:
Confidence. Men love when a woman is confidant. You know that a man is right for you if he treats you like a prize, right... well, you have to treat yourself like you are a prize, too! When you treat yourself, you produce oxytocin, lifting your mood. Some oxytocin producing activates (OPAs) are going out with your girlfriends, eating a little organic dark chocolate, and being out in nature. You have to invest time, energy, and resources in yourself. This goes beyond treating yourself to manicures and shopping. Love yourself and learn about yourself. You need to become your own soulmate first then you can find your soulmate in the world.
Compassion. There is nothing more magnetic than kindness. People want to be around people who make them feel good. This compassion needs to extend toward yourself. You have to be kind to yourself and never talk negatively about yourself or others.
Q) What is the fastest way to go from single to being in a committed relationship?
A) In other areas of life, such as fitness and business, we feel comfortable asking for help and guidance. You see that someone seems to have it all figured out and you reach out to them for advice. The same thing goes for relationships! Turn to people who are in happy relationships and ask their advice and find a dating coach who can help guide you.
Mike had a wonderful time talking with Johnny and Lara. It is so great to share knowledge and learn from others in this field. Now get out there and find Mr. Right!
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