Has this ever happened to you? Your relationship seems to be going great and then BAM… your boyfriend disappears. You were probably left feeling hurt and confused and maybe even angry. You also might have blamed yourself. I am here to tell you that you are not to blame and you can and will get past these negative feelings.
This is the most important lesson that I can teach you: No one can make you feel anything. Yes, someone’s words or actions can bring on negative feelings but you have the power to turn it all around. Every day, you have to wake up and to decide how you feel. You have to tell yourself that yes, that person hurt you but if they are capable of doing that to you, you don’t want them in your life anyway. You have to move forward with positivity and invite positive people into your life.
I know all too well that this is easier said than done. The secret is that you have to fake it until you make it! How do you do that? When someone asks you how you’re doing, tell them that you are fantastic, amazing, or phenomenal! Even if I am feeling down or in a bad mood, if I use one of these happy adjectives and put on a happy face, I start feeling better. I bet you will, too! Give it a shot! It’s amazing what a positive outlook can do!
For the record, there are tons of reasons why a man might disappear and most of these reasons have nothing to do with their partner. Maybe he is not ready for a commitment… Maybe things just don’t feel right… Maybe he is panicking and can’t handle confrontation… Maybe he doesn’t think he’s good enough for you…Whatever his reasoning might be, if he chooses to vanish without coming to you and telling you what’s going on, he is not the one for you. He did not end the relationship in the right way but that relationship was meant to come to an end so you can find someone who would never disappear on you.
Keep in mind that there is a big difference between a man needing space and a man completely up and vanishing. Space is actually really healthy and helpful for men. When they are under stress, they need that time to decompress and clear their mind. If you see your man seeking out time alone, be supportive and let him know that you are there for him if he wants some company later.
When something brings you down, you can lift yourself up, even if you’re just pretending to be ok at first. Remember that there is always a reason why people do the things that they do. If he disappeared, that’s on him. Now, you are free to find someone who will stay by your side no matter what. Do your best to stay positive and it will get easier and easier.
The fake it until you make it method doesn’t work for everyone all the time. If you are feeling depressed, please know that you are not alone. I encourage you to reach out to loved ones and seek help from a professional.
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You have probably heard about how confidence is the number one hottest quality that draws a man to a woman...but what about after that initial attraction? What quality does a man who is looking for a long and lasting relationship find hot? Believe it or not, it's boundaries. A woman with boundaries shows a man that she is confident and respects herself. It also shows him exactly what he needs to do to make her happy.
A lot of women are afraid to set their boundaries for fear that it will come off as naggy and needy. Telling your man what you want and what you need is not just important for your happiness, it is important for your man's happiness, too. You are giving him a road map to your heart and taking away the fear and anxiety that he has regarding his ability to make you happy. Many men are intimidated by the fear that they won't be able to make a woman happy forever. That is why they have trouble committing to a relationship.
Be open with your man and tell him what you need. You can tell him how happy it would make you if you spent more time together or if you went on more dates together. You can let him know how much it would mean to you if he called you more often. If he does something or says something that bothers you, you should let him know. Getting those feelings off of your chest will also ensure that you don't bottle them up. This is healthier for you and it can also help prevent an argument down then line.
Men think that it is so sexy when a woman can be upfront and communicate exactly what she needs. By doing so, you are taking care of yourself, helping him understand what you need, and setting your relationship on a path to success. If you need something, ask for it. If you aren't happy with something, tell him. He will love that you are telling him what you need and you will love that you are getting what you need. Everybody wins!
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There are 2 things that drive EZ Dating Coach, Mike, absolutely insane! Number 1: He can't stand when a guy leads a woman on. If you are only interested in sex, just be honest with her. Don't let her think that you are interested in anything more. Number 2: He can't stand when a woman who is looking for love and marriage stays with a guy knowing that he has ZERO intention of ever committing to her. Trying to have a relationship with someone who isn't interested in one will only lead to heartache.
To avoid these issues, you need to find out if your guy is into your or not. How do you do that? It's easy! Ask yourself these 3 questions:
Does he include you in his future plans? Maybe he invites you to a party or an event that is a few weeks away...Maybe he plans a trip or vacation for the 2 of you to go on...Maybe he talks about moving in together... This shows you that when he is thinking about his future, you are in it and is definitely into you!
Is he introducing you to his friends and family? This is very important! It shows you that he is serious about you and your relationship. This is another sign that he is into you! If he wasn't, he wouldn't bother making those important introductions. You are important to him and he wants his loved ones to get to know you!
Is your happiness a priority in his life? Does he do things to try to make you happy? You can test this by telling him that it would make you so happy if you went out to dinner together. If he doesn't take you to dinner, that is a sign that he might not be into you.
Ask yourself these 3 questions and make sure that you are both on the same page. No one's feelings will get hurt and you can both be happy and moving in the direction that you both want to go in.
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