3 Steps To Get Men To Chase You

Dating efficiently for women can be the most confusing process in the world. At first, I will tell you to go wild and message every man that makes sense for you. The next minute, I will say "do nothing and let him come to you." Any woman reading this should want to tear her hair out and say, "Mike! Make up your mind! Do I sit back or pounce?"

The answer is simple and can be broken down into two steps.

First, message every guy that looks good for you and yes ask these men on dates. Why should YOU, being the woman, ask him, being the man out? Because Men do not see you as a real live person until they meet you in person. Thus, you need to get to the date as fast as you feel comfortable. Once you are on a first date, he can fall in love with your beauty, get to know your personality and determine if he is interested in you and vice versa. But until he sees you, you might as well be a figment of his imagination. You do not exist. Thus, get your butt on the date if you don't want men to disappear online.

Alright, now that you are going on dates, how do you get a guy to chase you.

Well first, watch this video and I will show you.

Next, here are the 3 Steps To Make Men Chase You

STEP 1: Go On The Date - Well that was simple and straight forward! Well there is more to it. Dating should be fun, exciting, and exploratory. However, if you are looking to settle down sooner rather than later it also better be strategic. What do I mean by that? Before you go dating, build you perfect man list. This should be a laundry list of 20-40 items you want in the perfect man but narrowed down to your top 5. Now, during the date, you should be asking questions that hint at whether your date has your top 5 qualities. If he doesn't have your top 5, move onto the next guy. If he does have your top 5 and you enjoyed the date, proceed to step 2.

STEP 2: End Date The Right Way - Assuming your date has your top 5 and you have fun say this, "I just had the best date of my life with you. I really hope I get to see you again." You say that slowly and confidently. You drop the mic and you walk out.

STEP 3: Do Nothing - Do not text, call, or email. It is finally time for him to chase you. This step is so vitally important because it gives you all the information you need. If he calls/texts you in the next 72 (hopefully 48) hours, hopefully asking for another date then he likes you. If you don't hear from him than 98.5% of the time he doesn't like you. If you hear from him, he has your top 5 and you would like to see him again then agree to a 2nd date. If you hear from him and he doesn't have your top 5 then don't agree to 2nd date.

Finally, repeat STEP 3 after every single date until you are exclusive. It is important once he knows you are real that he comes after you.

Wait! I forgot the most important part. Do not have sex with him until you are exclusive. He must chase you and chase you and chase you until he wants to lock you down. He will want exclusivity for a few reasons:

1. He thinks you are fantastic

2. He wants to finally have sex with you

3. He is convinced he has found a prize that few men could have earned - He only feels this way if you don't have sex with him. If you have sex with him on date 2, whether it is true or not he will assume you do this with every guy. Thus, he is NOT special. And, if he is not special, then you are not special in his eyes.

Alright ladies. Let's break down one more time so we are crystal clear. First, message every guy possible and be aggressive to be all your competition and land a date with the best guy possible. Next, end the date like a rock star by complimenting how awesome the guy is and how much fun you had. Finally, do nothing and find out if he likes you by him finally reaching out to you. If you do this process over and over again, you will find an amazing guy who is going to chase you for a lifetime.

How To Be A Strong Confident Woman

We are dealing with an epidemic in today's world. The epidemic is effecting both men and women. The epidemic has positive aspects but also has some negative aspects. Let's talk about this epidemic. The epidemic is that women have entered the work force and they are kicking butt. This is great because, smart women helping companies, means more profit and better products. But this is bad because women are often asked to act like men while at work. This process can be exhausting. Women come home and they are tired and sometimes have a difficult time of transitioning back into their normal state of acting like a female.

So what happens when a woman acts like a man? The woman is fiercely independent, does everything herself, but lacks receiving support. When a woman doesn't receive support, she doesn't feel whole.

What happens to men when women are super independent. They no longer feel needed. Let's dive into this. Back in the day, men used to hunt, slay dragons, and other manly things that involved protecting their women. Now, men don't get to slay dragons and thus need to find new ways to protect. One hundred years ago, men were typically the only income provider and thus felt satisfaction in bringing home the bacon. However, now women are also working and they no longer get to feel needed in regards to providing financial security.

So what does all this mean?

1. Gender lines are being blurred at home and at work and both sexes are confused

2. Women are exhausted

3. Men don't feel as useful as they used to

How do we fix these problems?

Before we solve the problem. Let's define the three types of confident woman. Best described in this video:

Three Types of Confident Women:

1. I Can't Do Anything Woman - Lacks Confidence

2. I Can Do Everything Woman or Anything He Can Do, I Can Do Better - Remember the Mia Hamm vs. Michael Jordan commercials? This woman is super woman and literally can and will do everything. This could be the single mom, this could be the single woman with the big career, fancy car and house, and amazing family.

3. I Can Do Everything But I Ask For Help Too - This woman is enlightened, smart, and truly gets it. This woman realizes we have an epidemic. She realizes that when she does everything herself she will be exhausted. But, instead when she asks a man for help, she gets two birds with one stone. She gets her man to feel needed and she alleviates her own stress of having to do everything. She feels supported.

So back to how do we fix the epidemic?

Simple. Women need to get comfortable asking for help. They need to ask for help, not because they need it, but because men need it and quite frankly wouldn't it be awesome to have your guy help you with things?

Let's talk examples so you can start executing immediately.

Let's say you go grab a coffee with your guy but you forgot to get sugar. I can do everything woman would just go get herself. But, I ask for help too woman would say, "would you mind getting me two packs of sugar."

Guy feels needed and says, "sure."

He comes back and you say, "Thank you so much, you are so great at taking care of me."

GUY FEELS LIKE A MILLION BUCKS AND ACTUALLY SUCCESSFUL AT BEING A

BOYFRIEND. (Man's largest insecurity is always being a crappy boyfriend)

If you are consistently telling him he is doing a good job that is the equivalent of him telling you, "wow you look amazing in those jeans."

To recap, if you really want to take strength and confidence to the next level, it is not doing everything yourself. It is getting your man to do things for you even though you are more than capable of doing it yourself.

Should You Be Listening to Your Girlfriends in Regards to Dating Advice?

I remember when I was a 15 year old boy, and yes I will use the word boy even though I supposedly turned into a man at age 13 (Bar Mitzvah) I got my dating advice from my close friends. My closest friend, Joe, would always tell me that you can't be nice to women. You need to command them, put them down, and show your raw dominance over them. At the time I had to think his words had merit because he always seemed to do very well with women. (Obviously, later in life I learned he was full of shit) Anyway, him and I would partner up and head to the mall to hit on women.

One of us would approach, typically taking turns to initiate conversation. Once we thought the women were receptive to having a conversation, we would both talk to them. Joe would dominate conversation and would make fun of me. I would pretend to be sad, one woman would comfort me while the other woman would laugh. The girl that would laugh would be Joe's, while the woman that was sympathetic would be mine. This strategy worked quite well and suited our personalities.

However, obviously this "routine" was not entirely genuine and of course did little in terms of building a true connection and facilitating actually getting to know each other. Thus, this strategy would need to evolve.

Anyway, I probably told this story because it made me feel nostalgic of the fun of hitting on strangers at a mall. But, why is this story valuable for you? It shows that advice from friends can be good and/or bad. In this case, my friend's advice, in the short term of picking up women was probably half decent. But, in the long term, including karma, and building true intimacy, it was disingenuous and not helpful for me or the women I courted.

So, in order to help you decide if your friend's dating advice is any good, I have decided to over generalize but put your friends into two buckets: "Yes" Friends and "Guardian" Friends:

1. The "Yes" Friend - The yes friend simply tells you whatever you want to hear. You get a bad haircut, she tells you, "Wow, I love your haircut. You look amazing!" You have a boyfriend or potential boyfriend that you like and clearly doesn't treat you how to deserve to be treated the yes friend says, "Yea, you are right, give him a second chance." The yes friend is a valuable friend for boosting your ego and having less stressful conversations but she is not a person to get advice from. (At least if you are looking for a honest opinion)

2. The "Guardian" Friend - The guardian friend is 1. your protector and 2. holds you accountable when you do something wrong. This friend has probably known you for a long time and when she sees a current/potential boyfriend not treating you well, you better believe she is going to tell you about it. When the guardian speaks, you better at least listen because she truly has your best interests at heart.

However, in regards to YOUR relationship. It is your decision. My advice is don't rate the quality of the guy, rate the quality of the relationship. If he treats you well, move forward, if he doesn't treat you well, demand better and if he gives you better, awesome! If he doesn't, maybe it is time to move on.

Bottom line, it is okay to listen to all you friends and even listen to the words you find on the internet. But, at the end of the day, you decide what advice is right for you. Some advice will be applicable and helpful, while other advice will not be helpful. Either way, trust yourself and do the best you can. If things with a current boyfriend are meant to be, they will be. If they are not meant to be, that is fine too.