Your love life is a catch 22. You want to date a man who is silky smooth in conversation, knows exactly when and how to touch you, and just oozes confidence. But you also want a man that isn't just looking for sex and is willing to commit to you and just you. Does this man actually exist?
The answer is yes, but he is hard to find. If you do find him, what are some signs that he is actually looking for love?
1. When you ask what he is looking for? He says "I want love and to share my life with someone special." - Believe it or not, most men do NOT lie when asked a straight forward question.
2. Talk of Future Plans Together
3. Introductions to Friends and Family
4. Scheduling Dates in Advance
5. Texting Daily
6. Phone Calls
7. Willing to Speak Everyday
8. Actively Setting Up Dates, no texting once per week to setup a booty call
If he wants you and only you, he is going to put in some effort. If he doesn't put in effort try asking the following: "You are an amazing man and I love spending time with you. You would make me the happiest woman in the world if you did ......."
If you try the phrase above and he doesn't deliver, it might be time to look for a new man.
Relationships are hard work. It is molding two lives into one amazing life together. Being single and not dating can be fun and refreshing because the only accountability you have is to yourself. Thus, if you are single and debating whether or not to get back into the serious dating world.
Maybe you should do the following 5 things first:
1. Helicopter Tour of Landmarks - One of the best skylines in the world, this is a no brainer.
2. Metropolitan Museum of Art (The Met) - This place is huge. If you are anything like me, not a huge walker and short attention span, you will be able to come here about 8 times to finally have seen the whole place.
3. Escape the Room - Tired of EVERY night time activity revolving around drinking? Me too! This awesome activity puts you into a room and forces you to discover clues in order to hopefully escape the room. Ton of fun, quite challenging, and truly makes you think.
4. Top of the Empire State Building - I have lived in the greater NYC area for almost all of my life. I know this is a tourist trap but the view is absolutely breathtaking and if you have not done it, you must.
5. Broadway Show - I am not going to assume one show fits all. Do some research and figure out which show makes sense for you.
You live in the best city in the world. Enjoy it!
Is Valentine's Day a "Hallmark Holiday" or an opportunity to show your significant other how much she means to you? After asking countless men, both answers were given about equally. But, there was a few points that men agreed on in droves.
Here are those points:
1. If I do nothing on Valentine's Day I am in the doghouse
2. I don't like feeling forced to do something for my gf/wife, I would like to do it at random when I WANT TO DO IT!
Ladies - The men have spoken. This is how they feel.
What should you do to alleviate your man's stress?
Early Relationship - Tell him, "No matter what we do on valentine's day, as long as we are together I will be happy" - Take the pressure off of him. Set the bar of making you happy so low that he feels like he can't fail. Once the pressure is off, he will feel stress free and then have the freedom to plan something special if he wants to.
IMPORTANT - Talk to your significant other about your expectations for valentine's day. If you hate the holiday, tell him. Also review my article on love languages to ensure you and your significant other understand precisely how you like to be loved. Whether you prefer gifts, acts of service, words of appreciation, quality time, or touching.
What if you are single?
Let's get you a man. Setup your 15 minute phone call with me now. Here is a link to my calendar, book an appointment and let's work together so that in 2017 and every year there after you have a Valentine!
Who am I?
Mike Goldstein is a dating coach who helps clients through one-on-one coaching and currently has 6 clients married with 7 children between them. He has been featured on the Today Show, NJ.com, Patti Knows of Millionaire Matchmaker, and Shape Magazine. 83% of Mike's clients enter relationships during coaching and he currently has 100% client satisfaction.
