This is the 21st century, women are independent. Women are supporting themselves in the workforce. Women are marrying later. Women can do anything a man can do. No one is questioning any of these assertions. But should women still make men feel needed when they don't need them?
In regards to landing and keeping a husband, my answer is 100% yes. If you don't make a man feel needed he is going to be heading for the hills quick.
However, if you don't need him, and maybe he knows it, how do you accomplish making him feel needed?
Let start with the easy ones:
1. Let him fill up your water cup and say "thank you" when he does it (Obviously you can do this yourself, but that "thank you" is going to have him smiling ear to ear and feeling like he CAN do things for you)
2. Ask him for help with anything. Ex: Writing a resume, opening a pickle jar, or even opening the door for you. "Would you mind getting the door for me" ... "Oh you big strong man, thank you." Over the top? You bet it is, but try it and see how big his smile is.
3. Next time he gets you your cell phone, give him a big wet one
4. Grab his arm when walking down the street. "I feel so safe in your arms." Once again, have you ever seen a smile so big?
5. Ask for Advice - I am a man, I don't know why but we LOVE to give advice. I think it makes us feel important, like we are making a difference for another person.
Whoops, there aren't any hard ones, guess you will just have to practice the easy ones. Now go make all the men in your life feel needed even though you are more than capable do everything yourself.
I am the perfect dating coach to answer this question. I hate to admit this, but I probably go on Facebook 10 times a day for scrolling purposes and I am a man who used to pursue women on Facebook. (I actually got a first date via messaging my current girlfriend on Facebook)
Here is exactly what happens when a woman posts a half naked picture like the one below on Facebook:
1. Man internally says either, "Gross, not attracted to you" or "I want to have sex with you"
If man says the latter, he either keeps scrolling or sends the girl a message.
The "message guy's" only intention right now is what is the fastest and easiest way to get this woman into bed. Even if it comes in the form of "Long time no talk, how are you? What is new" or any variation of this message.
Since we are no longer caveman and can't do the following:
men now resort to a civilized socially acceptable offering of sex.
Now, chances are, you are going to get a few dates from a bathing suit picture. You are going to think, wow, posting these pictures really works. However, what happens on these dates? Does the guy try to take you home in the first night? Although I do believe that men do look for sex and find love while women are the opposite, there is a better way to get a more high quality date through Facebook.
Try a picture like this:
This woman look beautiful and is extremely appealing to most men. Most importantly she is not showing off cleavage, her but, or anything scandalous. She is simply pretty and classy. Her outfit maybe even suggests that she is the girl next door. The girl next door is usually a woman that needs to be courted. She needs to feel special, respected, and cherished. When all these things happen, and she feels comfortable, then and only then can a relationship become sexual.
Bottom line, if you want a husband
Do - Post pictures where you look beautiful, classy, sexy and sophisticated
Don't - Post pictures where you show off skin
